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You know how FaceBook is always updating your home page just when you are getting used to it all? Yeah. Me too. I found this video that explained it PERFECTLY if FaceBook updates happened in real life. These guys are so cute and funny. Enjoy!

Seriously…this is some kind of amazing funniness. Check it out. Language may be a bit offensive…but the video is wonderful and super funny. Enjoy!

So I’ve been reading a really good book recently. I wanted to take a moment and share some of the cool insights I’ve had as a result. You see, I’ve been really distracted lately. I come into work and I’m pulled in several directions. It’s nobody’s fault…and I really mean that. It’s just the nature of our business really. Catering and Special Events really has some pretty crazy times. There are the moments when you’ve got all the time in the world to complete things. Then there’s those moments when you think, “How in the HELL am I going to get all this done!!??” That is pretty much how things have been going lately. As a matter of fact I take my work home with me every day and promise I’ll work on it later when I’m home or at Starbucks. Alas…I end up lying to myself about that and don’t do anything. Its hard to start your day already behind. It’s not very empowering I’ll tell you.

I’ve been so wrapped up in the “not getting it all done” syndrome, that I really didn’t have time to sit down and read the book I have on my iPad. I love my iPad…I could spend an entire day on it and never get bored I swear. But lately I haven’t made time for anything important to me. No reading. No just enjoying the day. No just listening to music. It’s just been stress, stress, stress. And I’m being honest when I say it’s nobody’s fault. It’s just how my time has come to be lately. And then I started reading this book called Manage Your Day-to-Day: Build Your Routine, Find Your Focus & Sharpen Your Creative Mind. How’s that for a title, huh?

I just finished the first chapter. It’s all about building a rock-solid routine. I love routine…until I don’t. There are times when I need it. And there are times that I completely resent it. Lately has been a little of both..but mostly just being more enamored by distraction than excellence. So this is what I’ve learned so far…

1. Do your most meaningful creative work at the beginning of your day, and leave “reactive work” – like responding to e-mail or other messages – for later. I do this so much!! I wake up reading emails and responding to them. I show up at the office the same way. It feels like I should never get started on the important stuff because I’m not sure how long I’ll have to work on it. Thus…I never complete anything.
2. Establish “associative triggers” – such as listening to music or arranging your desk in a certain way – that tell your mind it’s time to get down to work. I’m so doing this tomorrow! I found a cool website today that allows you to have rain sounds play in the background while you are working. I LOVED it. It really made me feel like working and that was a good thing!
3. Commit to working on your project at consistent intervals – ideally every day – to build creative muscle and momentum over time. I love this! I’m totally doing it and dedicating at least 3 20 minute intervals of creative work each day.
4. Make a point of spending time alone each day. It’s a way to observe unproductive habits and thought processes, and to calm your mind. The way this read in the book was the point of sitting still for a long period of time is to practice not being distracted by all that WILL distract you so when you are working on what you love you have experience of NOT being distracted and running off doing other crap.
5. Don’t wait for moods. Show up, whether you feel inspired or not. And this was probably the most important thing I got all day today. I’m so grateful to have read it!

So that’s it so far. I’ll share more as I get it. The book is called Manage Your Day-To-Day. It’s a great read so go check it out. More to come…

I’m single. That’s a change since the last time I wrote on my blog. So to say a lot has changed recently is an understatement. I’m happy about the changes. I’ve been too embarrassed to share that with people because several of my friends didn’t understand why I would choose to be single at my age and with the wonderful partner I had. I received some support and some grief for my choices. It was hard to understand at first but I gradually came to figure it out. When I gave my word in my wedding vows to my partner, I gave it in front of all of these people in my life. And for me to suddenly break my word with that impacted them in a way I had never seen before. I thought it was just me getting divorced. But it actually involved so many others. I guess thats true no matter who you you married or how long you were married. It also doesn’t matter if it was a straight marriage or gay marriage. It impacts everyone involved…even those I may not have thought it would when I made the choice to become single.

I generally deal with change pretty well. Small changes and large ones. It’s just change, right? It’s not the end of the world. But it is different…and different throws me off sometimes. If this reads sort of stream of thought, its because it is. I knew I needed to say something about this…I just didn’t know WHAT. Writing in my blog has always gotten me clarity in ways I never even though possible…like journaling does. But its so public that it feels way more vulnerable. I guess what I want to say about this whole subject is that I am single. I’m acknowledging it to the world and I’m ready to continue on the path of whatever may be next for me.

I also wanted to say that, even though it’s nobody’s business but my own, I didn’t separate because of another person. I did choose to make a change because it was the right thing to do for me. I’m never not going to love my ex-partner. It’s impossible. Anything is possible, including being single for a while, or even being in a new relationship. It’s all possible. And I love possibility. And I love LOVE. I have been a stand for people getting what they want in their lives for so long that I finally decided to take my own advice. And that advice is this…love with all your heart and make changes when needed. I did both. And now for what’s next…

Have you ever just felt lonely even when you are in the middle of a large number of people? How about when you are in your relationship or marriage? You can be sitting in the same room with your special person but can feel so lonely that it’s painful. Have you ever had these feelings? I’ve been dealing with this a lot lately and I just wanted to talk about it for some of you that may be dealing with the same stuff.

It’s a holiday today. I see pictures of people/friends on FaceBook and they are happy and celebrating. I see them with friends out and about enjoying the beautiful day with each other. I see all the cool gay people out drinking and partying with friends. I see a whole world going on around me…but I don’t feel a part of it at all. I do deal responsibly with my depression…I talk often with my doctor and with friends and confidants. But from time to time the thoughts of loneliness and depression just hit me in a way that knocks me to my knees with pain. I wish I didn’t have it. I wish I didn’t have these thoughts…but I do. I typically batten down the hatches until it passes. I don’t make any life-changing decisions during this time. I don’t do things that may upset others. I just keep quiet until the darkness passes. That’s what I call it…the darkness. It could stay for a day or an afternoon…or it can stick with me for a longer period of time. I hate those times! If I stay too long in that space, it becomes reality for me and harder to get myself out of it. Someone who doesn’t suffer from the darkness may not understand this, so I don’t usually talk about it. But, with today being a holiday, and knowing that holidays kick my ass for all sorts of reasons, I thought it would be good to share and maybe help someone out there who might be dealing with the same thing.

Recently I’ve been feeling the darkness coupled with a feeling of profound loneliness. Anyone who knows me would tell you that it would seem weird that someone like me would feel this way. So many people love me. So many people love spending time with me. So much love out there…and yet I wouldn’t believe it even if they were all standing there in front of me. And sometimes they are…and I still don’t believe it or feel it.

If you Google loneliness and relationships you’ll find a lot of good source material. I’m not going to talk about that here. Instead I’m going to talk about something I read recently that really empowered me and helped me beyond anything I’ve used before. A book I purchased called Rebooting, Defeating Depression with the Power of Kabbalah. Regardless of your religious beliefs or non-beliefs just stick with me here while I share this. This isn’t a religion or belief conversation. It’s a simple way that I’ve found that has really gotten me out of some recent funkiness. Maybe that’s why I need to share it here, so that it will make a difference for me. I can derive a lot of value from the material on my own…but I need to share it so that it sticks…so that it makes a difference for others and hopefully you’ll bring it back to me in some way when I need you most. Deal? OK…here goes…

When the world feels gray and muted, it can often feel overwhelming and impossible to change.  One of the questions that was asked was, “How do you transform a dark room?”  You switch on the light, of course.  The light allows us to see the varied colors and textures of the room that no more than a second ago was shrouded in black.  In a brightly lit room, real living can commence.  In kabbalistic terms, the light that has that power to illuminate a dim room is a metaphor for something much more brilliant.

The Light, according to Kabbalah, is every positive emotion and every blissful moment you can possibly imagine, and it flows directly from our Creator.  This means that we have an endless supply of this amazing stuff, and we just need to find the light switch in order to active it.  The good news is that this goal is much closer than we might think.  In fact, the key to conquering depression has been right under our noses all along.  That’s because the cure for depression presents itself to us in the form of our daily struggles.

Now if this is true…and I’m just supposing it is for the sake of making a difference with my depression, then what they are saying is that my struggles, my pain, my loneliness, my struggles are a potential gift for me.  The first time I read this book and particularly the way that my depression may be a gift, I swear I wanted to throw this F’n book across the room and break something.  But I stuck with it.  I wanted to see if this would indeed make a difference.  Since we can’t have light without darkness and vice-versa, maybe there was something to this.  Darkness cannot exist where there is light. Have you ever tried this?  Even the smallest light like a match or a flicker of my iPhone charging across the bedroom at night has the darkness disappear in that little area where there is light.  If I were to put a blanket over a lamp, the light would still be there, it would just be covered by the blanket.  But the light is STILL THERE.  It didn’t go away.  This gives me an enormous amount of hope.

Just one step activates and enhances the Light within you.  The steps don’t have to be huge leaps or bounds; even baby steps will do.  With each step my confidence grows, and I move closer and closer to my true potential, which seemed so dim and dark just moments ago.  This willingness to try and turn the Light on was enough to get it started.  Sometimes if I don’t even have that part…then I start with the willingness to be willing.  And then something starts in me.  There is a little less darkness.  There is a little less heaviness.  And slowly and slowly the room gets lighter around me.  The darkness begins to lift and I can breathe a little deeper…not quite so shallow.

Darkness and light cannot coexist, so when you connect to the Light, depression is forced to take the high road out of town.  Just by reading this little blog article is taking a proactive step toward recovery.  There are a set of questions in the book that will allow you to sort of shed some light on your darkness.  Here are some of the questions the book asks…

1.  When did you first begin feeling depressed?

2.  What would you say is the cause of your depression?

3.  Do you feel as if you made a mistake or failed at a task?  If so, describe your experience.

4.  Did a personal experience reveal traits about yourself that you do not like?  If so, describe those traits and why you believe they are negative.

I really hope that this little article I’ve written has helped someone out there.  I don’t know if it will or if it won’t.  It is my hope that it does.  I go in and out of this darkness and hope to spend more time out of it than in it.  If you ever want to share your experience with me about your bout of darkness, please email me or send me a message here.  It’d be great to connect with you.  Thank you for reading and for being a fan.

Hey guys…I’ve been playing around with my iPhone and a new set of lenses I purchased recently. The macro pictures are some of my favorite.

The lenses are called the Ōlloclip and they are pretty fantastic. They fit right over the existing camera on the iPhone and they really let me focus in on the parts of the subject I want to. Check out some of the new shots with the macro lens.

OK…I’m a dog lover…but these little babies are just about the cutest things I’ve ever seen. These are my favorite album covers featuring furry friends. I don’t remember who showed them to me first but they are adorable. Enjoy and share!  My favorite is the Madonna album cover.  Which is your favorite?

I’ve often wondered the difference between bears.  Now I don’t have to wonder any longer.

Thank you Bear Poster! Check out this fabulous comparison chart. This should clear up a lot of questions you may have about bears and their friends.

This morning I ate a big bowl of healthy cereal and added a ton of sugar to it because I just felt like it. I had already had a double espresso with three teaspoons of sugar…one for each shot plus an extra to sweeten. I know when this all started back was when, just before the holidays started, I ate a bowl of cereal that I didn’t measure with my measuring cup. I knew what a portion size was, but I was in a hurry and quite honestly didn’t care. It was just before Thanksgiving. We had just moved into the new place and still unpacking boxes. There were a ton of excuses I made…pick any of them and they would have been valid. The point being that in that moment I decided to not honor my word with my diet and thus began a slippery slope.

Thanksgiving came…I ate a good amount of all sorts of stuff and more. It was Thanksgiving after all and everyone was doing it. I’d get back on after the holiday. But then the holiday parties started. I’m a caterer and I had parties just about every day of the month…more excuses. And so it went on and on. I had slowly gained back 10 pounds of the 30+ pounds I had lost and it didn’t take much time for me to regret throwing out the fat clothes. The pants I was so proud to buy, didn’t fit. The partner’s jeans still fit, but barely. The cute shorts I bought…not so cute anymore.

Until today. I’ve been seriously wondering what happened to my momentum…I was doing so great, feeling amazing and clean, but all of that possibility and freedom and determination was out the window. My long slide down the integrity slide had reached bottom again. Luckily…I haven’t gained back all 30 pounds I’d lost over the summer. I was walking in the grocery store today and something hit me. I suddenly remembered all the good foods I ate over the summer. I remembered the healthy snacks. I remembered the portion sizes. It all came back to me and I was stunned. I was stunned that I hadn’t remembered until then. Where had it been all this time? None of it mattered…it was all right there in front of me. The grace of a Higher Power or something had swept upon me and I remembered. For today…I remembered that it was all about nutrition.

The shopping I did today was pretty awesome. I have clean foods that I enjoy and that work well with my body. I have enough to prepare my snacks for each day and I feel empowered again. So for today I got some power with my health and that makes this a great day.